Let me tell you this and I'm going to be honest with you. I've talked to a number of people that are not that great as a dad and they're not that great as a husband.
I've made plenty of mistakes over the course of being a father and being a husband but you can't do that long term because what happens is you deteriorate the relationship with your children. Later on they're going to see this pattern and then the other thing that they're going to start feeling is they're under-appreciated, they're not important.
I just want to encourage you that if you don't make some radical changes it's not going to end well for you.
Let me ask you now, are you becoming the leader or father that is worth following?