It's okay sometimes for your kids to be disappointed. I’m talking about this morning is that when the kids get older and they get out there's gonna be an an area of disappointment that they're going to experience and if they don't experience some level of disappointment today they're not going to be able handle it as adults.
I just want to tell you parents don't beat yourself up today. If there's things that you can't do for your kids and I really see this a lot in in guys that our coach today that have done very very well financially and they think well because I've done well financially I've got to give my kid everything that they want. That is not true! I can just tell you right now that is not true! I want you to give your kids the things that you think that they need and things that they don't need, don't give it to them. I don't care how much money you've got because you're not doing yourself or the kid any favor whatsoever and giving them everything that they want, that's just not reality. That's not what life is going to do for them long term. If you don't teach them to deal with disappointment today, they won't be able to deal with
disappointment as an adult.
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I just want you today to think through learn to ask better questions. We always want to be people of integrity it's always difficult sometimes especially when you're ox is in the ditch when you're the one that's gonna maybe suffer the consequences as a result of what you share and what you tell.
Let me just encourage you a little bit in your business. Be savvy and don't be just blind to the the things that matters at hand and I just want you to ask better questions - “Is there anything else that could impact my decision?” I want to encourage you as a dad, as a husband, as a small business owner, don't leave out important information that could radically impact the lives of other people. You might say, “Well they didn't ask that question and so I didn't tell. Well, I don't know how you feel about that but personally the way I feel about that is the lack of information, an important decision, is the same as telling a lie because it's going to radically impact the way I might vote or the way I might respond or behave to a particular circumstance or situation.
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We're reading that book John Gottman's book, Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work, and, I want to tell you, that book is absolutely outstanding. At first I didn’t want to read but in chapter 2, John Gottman asked a question that I never really thought about. He said, “What is your secret weapon for defusing arguments?” I started thinking about that a little bit. I want to ask you today. Do you take things too serious? I mean probably, you are arguing about some dumb stuff in your relationship. We've got to do things to defuse these situations. I’d like to ask you again, what is your secret weapon? What is that thing that you're using to defuse some of those arguments or bad situations or disagreements that you're having? So just think about it. I don't know what it is for you? Whatever it is though I would encourage you to defuse it faster than not. Figure out what that thing is that you can do to defuse those bad situations.
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I'd like to encourage you today when you're doing deals, think through what the real cost is. Not only as it relates to the financial loss but what it could pertain to as it relates to your reputation. We are people of character. We have integrity and we need to stick to our word regardless of the financial outcome. When you're faced with dilemmas think about what your character is worth and go forward and make the right decision.
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Say what you mean and mean what you say - - - We don't do that often times even in the workplace and even at home. I see this over and over and over the lack of consistency. I see this primarily with parents with young children and they wonder sometimes why their children kind of get away with some things that they probably shouldn’t. It is because we don’t exercise the authority that God gave us over the children and we just disallow ourselves from making those tough calls and then our children misbehave and they grow up in a world not realizing that people mean what they say. I want to encourage you today to mean what you say say what
you mean and follow through.
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