Twenty years ago, my eldest just started driving. While I was teaching her I asked her to speed up until both of us are nervous. I wasn't even sure how fast we were going! And then I asked her to slow down. She asked me why I asked her to do that, and I answered because I want her to know what it will do. I took the mystery out of that driving experience, which could get her into trouble. Since then Brooke has not gotten any speeding ticket.
This past week, one of the Mastermind members came to the group and told us his teenage daughter is having sex. It broke our hearts. Listen, I am not casting stones at anyone. Dads, I am talking to you! We can do preventive measures to avoid this. Moms, you're very important.
We used to go to the mountains once a year and I remove my dad hat off. I made it comfortable for them to to talk about anything. And yes, we talked about sex. I didn't make them feel it's taboo! I didn't tell them "Go talk to your Mom!"
I remember I talked to them one at a time. I told them, "no man on the planet is going to tell you the truth like I will about the topic of sex." So I told them what men are thinking, what they will say that are all lies. I gave them a book, Every Man's Battle because I want them to understand how a man thinks.
My point is, we have to open the conversation to talk to our kids. Men, never again should you tell them to talk to your wife about things that you can.
Keep in mind, you also need to be a good model.
God entrusted us our kids to teach them. Take time. Open up a dialogue.
An interesting statistics, the number one deterrent to avoid teenage sex is having dinner together as a family.
So, even if it's uncomfortable, we have to tell them the truth.
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I wanted to talk about three things patience, persistence and being prepared. These are three things that have really served me well over the course of my business.
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Do not be afraid of doing something new. If it doesn't work out right well okay, you can say, "Hey, I tried!" If it didn't work, pivot change. Do something else but do not be afraid that it's going to fail. Do not think what other people will say or how they are going to view you. Do not allow any fear to keep you in a place - a place that you're not going to experience the life that you want. It's okay to make a mistake. Failure is in not trying not in not succeeding. Shift your mindset! Go out there and go for it. I want to encourage you today to stop being afraid. Pull the trigger! Do something, try something, do it methodically, don't think you have to do it all at one time right. If you're in a spot that you don't enjoy, transition slowly. Get accountability, get people around you that can help you. Incrementally implement a process and a system and a plan that you can work your way out of where you're at.
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During my quiet time this morning, I remember my post two years ago about "The Empty Chair" and it made me sad. In my den, there are two recliners, one for me and one for Robin. This is where we hang out and do life together. But one day, one of those recliners will be empty, one of us will be gone. I know that's pretty sad. The truth is, we're going to have horrific regrets or unbelievable memories, one or the other. It doesn't just apply to marriage but to every facet of life, every person we encounter.
One of our mastermind guys is dealing with bitterness. He can't let it go. Believe me I know exactly what it is. A guy did me very wrong that I wanted to shoot to him. I hated that guy. I didn't want anything to do with him. But six months ago, I went to him and I hugged him. And I told him I love you and I am sorry. I had to let it go because I was the only one being held captive, I was the only one being harmed. I was cheating my family because I was disallowing Robin to live the kind of life because I got bitterness harbored in me.
Guys, some of you, today, you want to hug somebody and tell them you love them and you're sorry. If you can't do that, confess it to somebody else and let it go. It squelches everything in you. We only got one life. We don't get a do over. Get rid of that stuff. You say, they don't deserve it! Well, it's called grace. It's things that people don't deserve but are given to them.
Listen, when you quit demanding justice you will know you have forgiven somebody. When you get bitterness out of your life, you will have a joy that I can't even begin what could transpire. It will change your life. Today, let it go!
Share this message to your family as some of them needs to hear it.
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Do you want to be a national brand like my friend and hero, Dan Miller? Attend conferences. But let me tell you, the magic does not happen in the conference room, not when the speaker talk, it happens outside the hall, during coffee or lunch breaks. Believe me, it's true!
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