Twenty years ago, my eldest just started driving. While I was teaching her I asked her to speed up until both of us are nervous. I wasn't even sure how fast we were going! And then I asked her to slow down. She asked me why I asked her to do that, and I answered because I want her to know what it will do. I took the mystery out of that driving experience, which could get her into trouble. Since then Brooke has not gotten any speeding ticket.
This past week, one of the Mastermind members came to the group and told us his teenage daughter is having sex. It broke our hearts. Listen, I am not casting stones at anyone. Dads, I am talking to you! We can do preventive measures to avoid this. Moms, you're very important.
We used to go to the mountains once a year and I remove my dad hat off. I made it comfortable for them to to talk about anything. And yes, we talked about sex. I didn't make them feel it's taboo! I didn't tell them "Go talk to your Mom!"
I remember I talked to them one at a time. I told them, "no man on the planet is going to tell you the truth like I will about the topic of sex." So I told them what men are thinking, what they will say that are all lies. I gave them a book, Every Man's Battle because I want them to understand how a man thinks.
My point is, we have to open the conversation to talk to our kids. Men, never again should you tell them to talk to your wife about things that you can.
Keep in mind, you also need to be a good model.
God entrusted us our kids to teach them. Take time. Open up a dialogue.
An interesting statistics, the number one deterrent to avoid teenage sex is having dinner together as a family.
So, even if it's uncomfortable, we have to tell them the truth.
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During my quiet time this morning, I remember my post two years ago about "The Empty Chair" and it made me sad. In my den, there are two recliners, one for me and one for Robin. This is where we hang out and do life together. But one day, one of those recliners will be empty, one of us will be gone. I know that's pretty sad. The truth is, we're going to have horrific regrets or unbelievable memories, one or the other. It doesn't just apply to marriage but to every facet of life, every person we encounter.
One of our mastermind guys is dealing with bitterness. He can't let it go. Believe me I know exactly what it is. A guy did me very wrong that I wanted to shoot to him. I hated that guy. I didn't want anything to do with him. But six months ago, I went to him and I hugged him. And I told him I love you and I am sorry. I had to let it go because I was the only one being held captive, I was the only one being harmed. I was cheating my family because I was disallowing Robin to live the kind of life because I got bitterness harbored in me.
Guys, some of you, today, you want to hug somebody and tell them you love them and you're sorry. If you can't do that, confess it to somebody else and let it go. It squelches everything in you. We only got one life. We don't get a do over. Get rid of that stuff. You say, they don't deserve it! Well, it's called grace. It's things that people don't deserve but are given to them.
Listen, when you quit demanding justice you will know you have forgiven somebody. When you get bitterness out of your life, you will have a joy that I can't even begin what could transpire. It will change your life. Today, let it go! Share this message to your family as some of them needs to hear it.
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So, what do you do when you're stuck? Get people around you, ask plenty of questions, set your pride and ego aside, and go out there and live the life that you've wanted to live. So, if you're stuck today get those people around you. Change that mindset and be willing to not compare yourself to other people.
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Ditching our ego will take us places we have never seen. Putting down the pride will make us do the right thing, we will be amore coachable and learn more at the same time. It won't be easy to raise the white flag and surrender but it's doable.
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You can make all the money you want, you can be as successful as you want, you can impress everybody, you can own whatever but if your family is not right, it's all useless. That is why I talk about the family about 75% more times than I do business.
Robin has a sign that sits on her nightstand and it says "always kiss me goodnight." So for 37 years now, almost every day, every year of our marriage, about 99 and half percent of the time we always practice this.
The Bible teaches us not to go to bed at night letting the anger stay with you. You got to deal with it. And even though we've gone to bed some nights, we fight just like you do, no we're not perfect, but Robin always comes up to me and kisses me goodnight. Kind of softens the anger a little bit. We'll talk through it and work through it. It's important that we deal with things. There are other things in life that we dealt with that have been instrumenta but Robin has taken the lead role in this. She said it's not healthy for us to go to bed angry at night.
Guys I want you to honor your wife. Ladies, do the same to your husband. Maybe implement that strategy yourself and get that little sign so you can can have a great relationship. Don't go to bed angry. A lot of times people say well a good night sleep will do you good but I'm going to tell you, a good night sleep just let you be passive and you just sweep it undr the rug. And there will be a day that you'll deal with it. It will be a lot easier to deal with things that day.
Honor that covenant because it will pay huge dividends in the future. Our families are the most important relationships on the planet. So honor them well and I just want you to pay attention. Always kiss me goodnight and it will serve you well.
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