Some of you guys, my heart goes out for you today because you're dealing with children that you have a broken relationship with. You don't have any ties, any connections.
Here's what I want you to do today. Reach out to those kids today with maybe a word of encouragement, maybe a hug on them, love on them. Tell them that you love them.
I am not saying condone what they've done. We have a lot of kids out there that are knuckleheads that have done the wrong thing. They've made bad decisions. But let me remind you of something. You made some bad decisions yourself as a child, as a teenager, as a young adult. Don't hold them to a standard that you're not willing to adhere to yourself when you were a younger kid. Let's show some grace.
Be the bigger person. What I am saying is there is nothing that they would do that would separate my love and willingness to go out and pursue them. Maybe you need to say "Hey I don't agree with what you're doing but I want you to know that I will spend my last quarter helping you if you're willing to change."
Don't love your passbook more than you do your kid. You got to love them back to you not beat them into submission.
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You can make all the money you want, you can be as successful as you want, you can impress everybody, you can own whatever but if your family is not right, it's all useless. That is why I talk about the family about 75% more times than I do business.
Robin has a sign that sits on her nightstand and it says "always kiss me goodnight." So for 37 years now, almost every day, every year of our marriage, about 99 and half percent of the time we always practice this.
The Bible teaches us not to go to bed at night letting the anger stay with you. You got to deal with it. And even though we've gone to bed some nights, we fight just like you do, no we're not perfect, but Robin always comes up to me and kisses me goodnight. Kind of softens the anger a little bit. We'll talk through it and work through it. It's important that we deal with things. There are other things in life that we dealt with that have been instrumenta but Robin has taken the lead role in this. She said it's not healthy for us to go to bed angry at night.
Guys I want you to honor your wife. Ladies, do the same to your husband. Maybe implement that strategy yourself and get that little sign so you can can have a great relationship. Don't go to bed angry. A lot of times people say well a good night sleep will do you good but I'm going to tell you, a good night sleep just let you be passive and you just sweep it undr the rug. And there will be a day that you'll deal with it. It will be a lot easier to deal with things that day.
Honor that covenant because it will pay huge dividends in the future. Our families are the most important relationships on the planet. So honor them well and I just want you to pay attention. Always kiss me goodnight and it will serve you well.
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Guide,
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Anger
Great habits and good company have a way of turning times like this from tragedy to triumph.
While I was working on the new personal assessment that I'm putting together for our community. When I was reading through the family section, it kind of touched me, my own heart. I started thinking about my own family, and my daughters and my grandkids.
Guys, listen, I want you to lean in. Family is the most important dynamic of what we deal with each and everyday. I am all fired up about making money. I love to make money. I never want to take away from making more money today. Don't hear me wrong. I'm not saying making money's wrong. I want you to go make all the money that you can. Absolutely. What I don't want you to do is do it at the expense of your family.
And what's difficult for some of you guys to hear right now is you're young, you've got a lot of financial obligations and responsibilities ahead of you. I know you're torn. I get it man. Listen, believe me, for 40 years I've been getting that. I understand it. But some of you guys are doing this success thing at the expense of your children.
Anybody can be a father but it takes a real man to be a daddy. I want you to build those boundaries. And be careful. When you come home at night and your little Billy or Susie says, "Daddy can we play?" Man shut those electronics off and go out in the yard and play with those kids. They never ever will ask you "Hey Daddy, how much money did you make today?" They don't care. What they want is your time and listen. Spend the time with them. Don't cheat them out of the most important part of your day.
Don't come home exhausted. Man up and go out there an play with those kids. And I promise you the returns on that time invested will be invaluable.
Don't waste your whole life coming home one day with a pocketful of money to a house full of strangers.
When you get old like me, fat and bald headed, you can look back and not have regrets.
Again, make all the money you can but man when those kids come up to you and say "Daddy can we go out and play?" Just answer "Yes, I'm on my way!"
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Character,
Masterminds,
Family,
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Relationships,
Success,
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Priorities,
Parenting,
Commitment,
Discipline,
Clarity,
Reputation,
Development,
Decisions,
Encourage,
Encouragement,
Leadership,
Father,
Father Figure,
Advice,
Expectation,
Legacy,
Personality
Leadership is a topic that is usually discussed in a business or work context, but today I want to talk to you about leadership within the family. Let me share my thoughts with you on how you can be a ‘Servant Leader’ in your family. The word ‘Servant Leadership’ makes some of us uncomfortable because it sounds like we are being asked to act as a doormat for other people or as if we are being asked to play the role of ‘the nice guy’, who is weak and taken advantage of by everyone.
But that is far from the truth. Servant leadership is about being a real man. It is one of the most powerful forms of leadership where you serve your family with unconditional love, going the last mile for your wife, exercising authority with compassion, putting your family’s needs ahead of yours, taking leadership decisions without thinking about your own agenda, doing the right things that need to be done and leading your family to a good place.
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Balance,
Relationships,
Success,
Priorities,
Tips,
Parenting,
Commitment,
Preparation,
Discipline,
Clarity,
Development,
Self Development,
Decisions,
Crossroads,
Encourage,
Encouragement,
Father,
Father Figure,
Influence,
Legacy
Last year, there was a leaky faucet outside the hydrant. It was dripping and I kept saying I'll fix that next week. Then, the weather went crazy cold and I still have not fixed it and I guess you know how that turned out.
I thought about how that equates to our personal lives. We keep having that mentality "I'll take care of it later." What decisions are you making today that are going to affect you adversely 30, 60, 90 days from now? I want to encourage you today, take an inventory.
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Relationships,
Success,
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Priorities,
Tips,
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Commitment,
Persistent,
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Integrity,
Discipline,
Clarity,
Development,
Self Development,
Decisions,
Crossroads,
Wisdom,
Encourage,
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Risks,
Leadership,
Father Figure,
Determination,
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Execution,
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